Today we’re going to talk about how to not be afraid of failure, because wouldn’t that be nice?
I’ve done my very darnedest to adopt the mindset that a setback is always a setup for something greater.
I didn’t start my business until I was about 28 years old.
However, I did have the idea to have a website called Hot Rich Love Your Life Bitch for seven years prior. I just knew it was going to be something big, but I just couldn’t really bring myself to do anything about it.
In the meantime, I started and stopped all kinds of different blogs, different businesses, I was registering things left, right, and center, and having to cancel them after.
Looking back, I was essentially paralyzed, and it was really because I was just afraid of failing.
I was so scared to take the next step, and I was scared that it wouldn’t work out, because at that point I really didn’t think I had any more cats to let out of the bag.
What I’m trying to say is that…I didn’t know if I had any more tricks up my sleeve
Putting off that dream actually had some really unexpected negative effects on my life. I started to become really depressed. I wasn’t proud of myself. I was not being a nice person. I was drinking a lot. It was affecting my friendships, it was affecting my relationships, my anxiety, my sleep. I didn’t have any hobbies or any joy or any passion in my life.
So I got to this place of rock bottom, and I actually think that rock bottom is a really great place to be, because when you are there you start to become open to trying different things, because your way is not working.
I happened to come across Joel Osteen on TV. I think the sermon is called “Dark Places”. He was talking about how in order for a seed to become a flower it needs to be planted in the wet, dark dirt.
And that’s where I felt I was in that moment. However, I knew that in time, I would actually be able to bloom into something really beautiful if I just went inward.
Deep down I knew what I was wanting to do, but I just couldn’t see it as possible. I was letting all of my old failures, and all of the mistakes I had made cloud my vision.
I actually realized that each so-called failure was really just training for where I was in that moment and where I am right now. And because I stopped being afraid of failure, because I conditioned myself to fail so many times, and I conditioned myself to no longer see failures as real, they were just setbacks for setups, they were prepping me for something greater, I then had the confidence to just move forward.
I knew it doesn’t matter.
There’s no such thing as a failure.
If I try this and it fails, it’s going to lead me to the next step.
You might have something in front of you that is scaring you, or you might have a next step that you need to make that you’re not quite sure if you can handle. You just need to look back at whatever you see as failures, and even if it was someone else’s failure or your own, how can you see each of those failures as setting you up for this very moment?
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With that, I will leave you here.
Go forward. There is no need to be scared.
And your whole life has been preparing you for this moment.
Wishing you guys love, and light, and bite-sized bitchiness, and I’ll talk to you soon.