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How to Stop Caring About What Other People Think

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Today I’m going to be talking to you about how to stop caring about what other people think so that you can put yourself out there.

 

I remember a few years ago; well, many years ago actually I was working at this job while I was at university. I really liked this job. We often got tested by a trainer and we would have to stay up on our skills.

 

I did my thing and the trainer recognized some talent in me and they let me know that they thought that I would be an amazing trainer if I ever wanted to go down that route; that there would be a lot of opportunities for me within the company.

                               

I shared it with my coworkers who were working with me during that shift.

 

Right away, I was shot down. They actually scoffed at me.

 

They were talking about how being a trainer isn’t what it cracked up to be; it’s actually way harder than it looks and dah, dah, dah. They’re just letting me know what they thought about me being a trainer.

 

In that moment I told myself not to shine too bright. Don’t talk too much about recognition or good things that are happening because it makes other people feel bad.

 

Something that comes to mind is that classic scene from mean girls when Lindsay Lohan and all the girls are in Regina George’s bedroom and they start giving themselves self-insults:

 

My hairline is so weird. I hate my curves. My pores are huge.

 

If you’re of the Mean Girls generation, you probably laughed when you saw that. Because we all know what that’s like.

 

It’s such a common and acceptable thing for people to speak badly about themselves. It’s not really acceptable to talk about the good things going on in your life or celebrate or even be proud of yourself. It’s looked down upon.

 

That’s all well and good. I guess nobody loves a total narcissist.

 

What happens is as women, we’re conditioned to do this to not like ourselves.

 

We’re conditioned from a very young age. What happens is when you learn not to shine too much, that speaking highly of yourself or even thinking highly of yourself is looked down upon and it is not likable, you start becoming more concerned with being liked than liking yourself.

 

I noticed so many of my clients carry this into their businesses.

 

This concept of not wanting to “rock the boat too much” because people might not like it, they might get negative feedback and not really putting themselves out there and being … living up to their full potential just because they are afraid.

They are in fear. Maybe their family might not like it, their friends might not like it, random people on the internet might not like it.

 

Trying to be likeable holds ALOT of people back.

 

It can be really tempting to dull your shine in order to make yourself more liked and stay comfortable. It can be easy to not put yourself out there.

To not show up and actually do the amazing work that you’re meant to do in the world and to not show up and take a stand for what you actually believe in.

 

The more times you don’t show up, or you don’t say what you mean or you don’t do what you really want to do, it really starts to change not only how the world sees you, but how you see yourself.

 

Before you know it, you have learned to cut yourself short, not like yourself, and not see yourself as amazing just in the name of making yourself more likable to others.

 

EFF BEING LIKABLE

 

Who cares if you are more likable to others if you don’t even like yourself? When you let yourself down, when you don’t follow through on the things that you really want to do in your heart, in your head, in your dreams, you start to not like yourself.

 

Eff being likable. Eff being the nice girl. It is done. It’s over.

 

This little bad habit actually has the power to wreak havoc on your career and impact you can make. But, also your ability to earn real money.

 

If you hold yourself back in even the smallest way in your career in order to be liked, in order to not stand too proud, in order to not shine too bright, how do you think that affects your ability to make money?

 

Especially in comparison to the woman who is not holding herself back in order to be liked. Who is showing up, who literally does not give a F about what other people think of her.

 

Who do you think will become a millionaire first?

A billionaire first?

Who do you think is going to become a best selling author?

A highly paid speaker?

Who do you think is going to get the most clients?

Make the most impact?

And who is going to change the most lives?

 

You better believe it is not going to be the woman who is worrying about being liked by others.

 

If you are someone who finds it hard to stop caring about what other people think, and I totally get it, get invested in showing these people a different way of being.

 

Show them that by shining, that by liking yourself and celebrating your accomplishments, that it is actually really a cool, and attractive, and sexy, and magnetic, and way more likable and fun to be around someone who loves their life, who is going after amazing things and is actually making things happen in the world.

 

Show them what LIKING yourself can look like

 

It takes one person to start a trend; and you can be the person who starts this trend, who breaks the mean girl generation free from talking shit about herself. Imagine what would be possible for your life and the lives of everyone else if we were just more concerned with being the light than being likable.

 

I’d love for you to comment below and let me know if you didn’t give an F about being liked, what is the first thing that you would do? It can be as small as dyeing your hair pink. It may be you’re finally writing your novel, maybe you’re picking up and moving to another city, maybe you’re quitting your job and starting your dream business. I want to hear from you.

 

I’m wishing you love and light and bite-size bitchiness.

 

Be the light and stop giving an F about being likable.

sofie von marricks

 

 

 

How to Change Your Money Story

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We all tell stories about our money.

 

Over the course of our lives, every single one of us has weaved a little money web.

 

A story about how we are with money and what we believe about ourselves and money.

 

You might find yourself saying things like, “Money doesn’t grow on trees.”

“Oh, she’s just with him for his money.”

“Oh, my gosh. There’s no way she could afford that on her own.”

“Money’s not important. All I care about is experiences.”

 

All those things are all well and good (or not)…but they also affect how you make money.

 

So I would love to challenge you today to take five minutes and just write down, what are all the things that you believe and find yourself saying about money?

 

Do you find yourself saying things like, “I can’t afford that,” or “I’m bad with money,” or I don’t know anything about money?”

What you do to rewrite your money story is literally rewrite it from that point.

 

 

It’s simply just taking the time to rewrite this story that can just be so insightful and so powerful.

 

Something that I do every morning to get me in a really good place with my money is I do what I call an “I am Rampage”.

 

I break out my journal, set a time for five minutes, and go on an “I am” rampage, and I write all these “I am” statements about what I do with money.

 

When I was working at my corporate job, I started writing these things:

I am doing something that I love. I’m getting paid to do something that I love.

I am paying off all of my debt. I pay off my credit card every month.

I do work that I love. I work with people who are excited to work with me.”

 

And I just started going on this rampage every single morning and practicing being in that place.

 

In the same way, if you surround yourself with people who are telling you that you are stupid or ugly or don’t know anything, then eventually, if you hear that enough times, you’ll start to believe it.

 

Sad but true.

 

And in the same way, if you keep telling yourself these positive things about how you are with money and what your story with money is, you tend to believe it.

 

And when you start believing it, you start doing things differently. You start to believe that it’s possible for you to make money doing this thing that you love. You start to believe that it’s possible for you to create something and sell it. You start to believe it’s possible to make money in ways that you enjoy.

 

And suddenly, the whole world opens to you.

 

For years, I told myself that I wasn’t good with money. I didn’t know anything about money, that I thought money was just for people who are poor and rich or whatever.

 

It totally was limiting me and holding me back. And when I finally began to embrace a new way of rewriting my money story and claiming it as my own, it absolutely changed my reality.

 

I became more confident.

I started to believe in myself more.

I ended up quitting my job.

I believed in myself enough to start a business, even though for seven years, I was terrified to do so and didn’t think it was possible for me.

I ended up scaling my income, getting an amazing slew of clients.

I host retreats all over the world now.

I am writing a book.

I have a group program.

 

So many great things have happened as a result of rewriting my money stories, and that’s just the beginning.

 

So I really hope that you take some time to figure out, what is the story that you’re telling yourself now, and what is the story that you want to tell?

 

I have a great, free, guided visualization below on how to live your hottest, richest life. It will get you in touch with the woman who is having the kind of money story that you want to have, that is confident and powerful with her money. So get in touch with her, and download that resource below.

 

I’m wishing you love and light and bite sized bitchiness.

 

sofie von marricks

 

 

 

 

 


 

How to Manifest Money in a Panic

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Today we’re talking about what to do when you are trying to manifest money…

and you’re also panicking at the same time.

 

A lot of times when talking to people, clients, girlfriends, whatever, and they’re trying to manifest something. It might be money, a job, or a client, sometimes it’s a man, but today we’re going to stick to the money conversation.

 

Let’s say you’ve been doing all the manifesting things.

 

You’re…

+ meditating naked under the moonlight

+ chanting and throwing your affirmations into a burning cauldron

+ writing your goals down everywhere, journals, diaries, mirrors, subway walls, whatever…

 

and it is just not coming and you are starting to have a freaking panic attack.

 

And I totally get the panic attack.

 

Maybe you’re running out of time, money, self-belief or faith.

 

 

Instead of getting obsessed with manifesting what you want, you need to come to the realization that the universe is obsessed with you.

 

Also, there are times when you think you need something and it is not always what you need, and the money NOT coming may be the universe’s way of supporting in that.

 

But you have to have faith that the Universe has got your back” as Gabby Bernstein would say.

 

Sometimes we are a dog, and we are trying to manifest chocolate.

 

We’re hungry, we want the chocolate. It’s going to be delicious and tasty. Meanwhile, we don’t understand that the chocolate is actually going to kill us.

 

Sometimes you need to just trust that things are not happening because you still need to uncover something, or you need to go deeper, or you need to just take your focus away from the lack of having that thing.

 

I’ll give you an exact example that is more money based.

 

Let’s say you got some bills to pay and you are wanting to manifest some clients, some business, some cash, whatever.

 

Things are coming up, money is running out, and you’re a bit stressed. You’re getting really close to making money, and you’re getting so scared and desperate that the money won’t come through.

 

You’re kind of spinning around in circles and feeling all around…kind of shitty.

 

Here’s the thing: You don’t attract what you want (more money), you attract more of what you are…

 

If you feel rich inside, you will attract riches. You can’t attract more money to come to you from a place of needing money, not having money, feeling shitty.

 

So you’re like how do I do that because I need the money, so how am I going to switch that.

 

You need to realign with how you want to feel when you make that money.

 

It is all about the feelings, so think about how you would feel when you get that money coming in.

 

You might feel powerful.

You would feel supported, like you can support yourself.

You would feel free with choice. You wouldn’t feel this pressure to get every client that comes through.

You wouldn’t feel as pressured to grasp onto them and not them go.

 

Cool thing is that you can recreate a feeling even without the money being present. Why would you want to do that? Well, because that is how the law of attraction works.

 

Again, I will repeat.

 

You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are.

 

So when you align with those feelings, recreate them and experience them, that opens up a channel for the money, the clients, the good vibes to attract themselves to you.

 

You grow and expand those free, powerful, rich feelings. So how do you do that?

 

Identify each of those feelings one by one.

 

You could recreate power by going for a workout. Go pump the iron, make your body sweat. It makes me always feel so powerful, and I feel amazing afterward.

 

You can recreate support by asking for support from a friend, from a mentor, from a colleague. You can also recreate that supportive feeling by being and giving support to someone else, or you can decide to support yourself by taking better care of yourself. Something around that nature.

 

Again, it doesn’t require money.

 

You can also recreate that freedom. Maybe you need like two hours just laying in the sun and chilling out and stop thinking about all this stuff.

 

Maybe you need to have, go laugh with some girlfriends. Give yourself that gift of freedom.

 

Not only do these activities get you out of your head and kind of interrupt you from focusing on what isn’t in your life, you recreate those feelings you feel so much better and you become a magnet for those feelings and for more experiences and other things that will give you more of those feelings.

 

[HEADER] Once you feel a bit better, that’s when you start receiving insights from the universe.

 

Maybe you get an insight to call a certain person. Maybe you get an insight to create a certain package or offer or to pitch a certain job to a certain person. You get these little glimpses of universal intelligence, so follow those glimpses.

 

That is what manifesting is all about.

 

Write them down, take action on them. That is how you manifest money when you are panicking, and that is also how you stop a panic.

 

If you want to learn how to manifest some more money and be in control of the money that you manifest, I totally recommend starting an online business. I love creating online businesses. I love helping people create online businesses, and I actually have a free guide below, a free mini e-book on how I created my own Hot Rich online business. So check that out.

 

I’m wishing you love and light, and bite-sized bitchiness, and an amazing INSIGHT that gives you a way out of the money manifesting panic.

 

sofie von marricks

 

 

 

 

 

How to Be More Productive and Motivated

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Today, we’re talking about how to get more done and stay motivated all day…

 

You can actually use these tips to actually get a perkier butt too. At least that’s how I discovered them.

 

A little backstory…I’ve been going to these barre classes to work out for a few years, and it’s  completely transformed my body.

 

At the start it was hard, and I found it really difficult to stay in the moves, or I would always be taking breaks and giving up during class.

 

Actually, unless someone’s watching over me, I’ll almost do something all the way, then give myself a way out, or procrastinate.

 

I know there’s many of us that perform a little bit better with someone screaming at us to go harder.

 

After about two and a half years of doing barre method, I notice that during the final 20 countdown, I seem to be able to muster up all of this extra energy, commitment, and focus.

 

I really end up giving it my ALL for that last 20 counts.

 

Since embracing this and almost kind of pretending that anything and everything is in the “ last 20 counts”, and I can always get 20 more.

 

I’ve really been able to push myself in the last year, and I’ve ended up getting this super rock hard, perky butt.

 

I am so excited because three years ago was when I started to work out for pretty much the first time in my life consistently because my butt was not looking so perky. And now, it has absolutely changed, and I could not be happier and more proud of myself…

 

I’ve put in the work, and it’s really because of that principle, just I can do anything for 20 more counts.

 

And guess what?

 

How you do one thing is how you do everything.

 

I have taken this principle into my business, and it has totally transformed my productivity and motivation every single day.

 

 

A bit of a background secret about me is that I am a bit of a classic perfectionist procrastinator…

 

Meaning that I tend to leave things until the very last second, until I have to hustle, and I totally overexert myself and pull an all-nighter to get it done.

 

However, that’s the old me.  I’ve been training my brain to get used to getting things done way in advance.

 

Because of that, I noticed my brain was still wanting this extra pressure, so I found a really great way to stay motivated and be more productive, and that’s seriously just by time-blocking.

 

Whether it’s writing the scripts for these videos, or it’s creating a new product, or brainstorming, or meditating, or even having a lunch break, I simply pull out my phone and say, “Hey Siri, can you set a timer for 20 minutes please.”

 

Siri: Okay. 20 minutes and counting.

 

Perfect. And then I have 20 minutes to just totally put my focus in. Just like my workout,  I can do anything for 20-minute chunks at a time. And then, I totally take a short break.

 

It’s all about GAMIFYING productivity…


A while ago  I got this little thing that It gamifies anything you need to be productive with.

 

It’s this little time cube, and I found out about this from another blog I follow called The Skinny Confidential, and all you do is you decide how much time you want to spend, 5, 15, 60 minutes, 30.

 

And then you just flip it up. I just have to focus on whatever it is until this is finished. Kind of like roll it like a dice to decide how long you’re gonna spend on it.

 

And then suddenly productivity becomes a game, and when you are playing a game, you are having fun. It gives you a challenge. It gives you a little bit of pressure, but what’s great about it is that it’s the pressure without the stress, and the less than, and the never enough mentality. You can be more productive, get more done, create more cool amazing things, and make more money as a result.

 

If that’s what you want to do, I actually have a free guide below.

 

It is How to Start Your Hot Rich Online Business. It is a mini ebook that I wrote, detailing everything that I did to launch my Hot Rich online business. So check that out below.

 

In the meantime, you can get some more stuff done, and if you apply this toward your workout, you can also get a perkier butt.

 

Remember you can do anything for just a little bit longer.

 

So just know that you have that focus, that motivation, and that strength within you.

 

I’m wishing you love, and light, and bite sized bitchiness.

 

sofie von marricks

 

 

 

 

 

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